beautiful coloring on this drawing and I remember this piece well!
But i have a question about collabs and it might sound a little ridiculous...
let's say you do a drawing and a friend wants to color it. she colors it and submits it, but then she demands that you submit her colored piece to your gallery as well. the thing is, I didn't want to because that particular piece was a rough draft and i just let her color it to improve her coloring skills. Of course, she forced me to submit her colored piece to my main gallery anyway and when I told her no, she threw dramatic temper tantrums demanding that i do it or else and she didn't care that I found it very awkward to have other people's colored work floating around in my main gallery when it should really belong in favorites.
I never felt so confused by anyone in my entire life.
that was four years ago, which was one of the many reasons why my friendship ended with her. but if i do collabs with people in the future, what is appropriate when it comes to submissions? If I colored your piece for example, I would submit it to my gallery and give you proper credit but i would never force you to submit my colored piece to your gallery because it just seems wrong and so conceited...
ugh. i'm sorry. i shouldn't be bringing this up but it's just that I've been manipulated and it's so confusing to me. any clarification would be very helpful in case if i do anymore collabs in the near future. if anyone replies to this, thanks for your input.
This is probably one of the most interesting questions/comments I've received. But no worries. Sorry to hear that had happened. That's really bizarre. I for one am someone who could never be forced into anything. You can ask my husband lol, he knows how stubborn I can get. However, I also don't force people to do something they don't want to either. I'll ask first, but if they say no, I wouldn't twist another artists arm just to post a colored piece. I mean that's just disrespectful and weird, the creepy kind of weird.
Honestly, no one should ever feel forced to submit a piece they contributed on regardless of who's gallery it is. If you colored something of mine and didn't want to upload it, that's your choice and Vice versa. I hope your friend eventually learned more about respecting artists requests. Tis a shame it had to result in an ended friendship. Maybe she's changed and things could be forgiven?
Again no worries. It's interesting what kind of occurrences happen within this community here. By the way, have you heard of Weasyl? www.weasyl.com/ If you're looking for some inspiration, or a place to upload art, I highly recommend. Have a good day and take care!
yeah i agree. it was one of the most bizarre and twisted friendships that i ever had and it really tore me apart. though the good news is that i'm finally finding closure on all this as i continue to do extensive research on narcissistic abuse and how certain situations with art should be handled like collabs, trades, co ownership, offspring characters, and so on. Anyway, thanks for your input with this subject and it all makes sense to me now and I know what I must do to prevent this from ever happening again.
As far as weasyl goes, I actually have it. My friend Tana brought it up to me several months ago and I got myself an account there. Some of my work is public, but my art and journals are set to friends only and my character profiles are under construction. if you wish to add me feel free to here: www.weasyl.com/~midnight21&nbs…; I'll add you back as well